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BY DR NIHINLOLA EUNICE OLOWE
Question 1: How do you define parenting? Is it limited to genetics, or is it more about the love, care, and values you instill in your child?
Answer: Parenting is much more than just genetics. It’s about the love, care, and guidance you provide. Being a parent means being there for your child, teaching them values, and helping them grow into their best version.
Question 2: Did you know that using donor eggs or sperm can be likened to receiving a blood transfusion or an organ donation? How does this perspective change your view on using donor gametes?
Answer: Just like a blood transfusion or organ donation helps someone live, using donor eggs or sperm helps you start or grow your family. It doesn’t change the fact that you’re the parent; it simply gives you the chance to have the child you’ve always wanted.
Question 3: Many people worry that using donor eggs or sperm means they are not the 'real' parents. What do you think makes someone a parent—is it genetics, or the lifelong commitment to raising and loving a child?
Answer: Being a parent isn’t just about genetics. It’s about the lifelong commitment to loving, raising, and supporting your child. The bond you create through care and love is what truly makes you a parent.
Question 4: What steps can you take to ensure a strong bond and sense of acceptance with a child conceived through donor gametes? How can love and parenting overcome concerns about genetic ties?
Answer: You can build a strong bond by spending time with your child, showing them love, and being present. Over time, your love and connection will matter far more than any genetic ties.
Question 5: In Nigeria, there are unique cultural and emotional concerns about using donor gametes. What are some of these concerns, and how can they be addressed to ensure a positive parenting experience?
Answer: Some people worry about what others might think or fear they won’t feel connected to the child. These concerns can be addressed by focusing on the love and joy of raising a child and remembering that what makes a family is the love you share, not just genetics.