Sometimes, saying “I'm fine” becomes a habit. 

By Oluwatomi Peters,        

Psychotherapist 

Sometimes, saying “I'm fine” becomes a habit.

• You smile.

• You go to work.

• You talk to people.

• You laugh.

• You take care of everyone else.

But when you're finally alone, you realize just how tired you really are.

Not necessarily physically tire emotionally tired.

• Tired of being strong.

• Tired of explaining yourself.

• Tired of being disappointed.

• Tired of carrying things you never had the chance to process.

• Tired of pretending that something doesn't hurt anymore.

And sometimes, you don't even know how to explain what you're feeling because you've spent so long telling yourself, “I'll be okay.”

But being strong doesn't mean you have to suffer silently.

• You are allowed to admit that something hurts.

• You are allowed to ask for help.

• You are allowed to rest.

• You are allowed to talk about the things you've been carrying.

You don't have to wait until you completely break down before you take your emotional wellbeing seriously.

Sometimes, the first step toward healing is simply being honest with yourself:

“I'm not actually fine, and I need someone to talk to.”

If this resonates with you, remember that asking for support isn't weakness. It's self-awareness.

Mr. Tom | Psychotherapist